I have had a few people reach out to me for advice on navigating their brand new polyamorous relationship and I thought writing a post on the things you need to know when you step foot into the polyamorous world whilst I certainly do not have all the answers and am far from a relationship guru. These are merely a couple of things that have helped us grow into a strong, loving family if this advice helps someone, even just one person, Iâ€™ve made a significant difference.
could be the throuple type polyamory, but please don’t be discouraged by this. Tweak my advice if you are in a V pronged polyamorous relationship or any relationship for that matter if you want to and use it even.
Jealousy is certainly not Your Enemy
This is the big one. Jealousy is a nasty human emotion and it grips us with unrelenting claws. Just youâ€™re not going to feel left out when they have their inside jokes or they kissed without you because youâ€™re in love with, or dating two people, doesnâ€™t mean. Jealousy is normal, but needless to say, that which you do using this emotion is what is going to make or break your relationship.
Let them have their inside jokes â€“ theyâ€™re in a relationship too in addition they need to learn about the other person. Love them loving one another! They donâ€™t love you any less due to it. Take that deep breath and ask to be concerned; â€œhey, may I get a kiss too, lovers?â€. Polyamory is all about courage and bravery. Capture that moment once they kiss; theyâ€™ll love the photos you are taking and theyâ€™ll reciprocate.
Then sit down and tell them how youâ€™re feeling if you find your jealousy doesnâ€™t leave you even when you rationalise out their actions.